"The degree to which you are willing to embrace the pain of recovery (healing) is the degree to which you will recover.  Your fruitfulness is at stake." - Christine Caine

 

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........CUT!

There are times in our lives we need to take a time out from everything and just be still…. I had been running from myself for so long, I'd lost sight of the person I proclaimed to be. Then, I began to realize the confident person in my mind had taken a seat in the audience while she was waiting to read her script.

 

After my last failed relationship, that confident woman I knew I could be had taken over.  "CUT, ENOUGH OF THIS ISH!” It was time to ask myself some hard questions.  I could no longer hide from the fact that I didn't know my own worth, nor did I have that Godesteem™ in the way I thought.  And, most of my relational choices, my marriage earning an Emmy nomination, reflected just that. I was staring, and had won Oscars, in movies and skits that I had written, and produced, at the expense of my self-worth.  I can recall back to this one script I saw myself as the co-star living happily ever after in a life of bliss.  That’s until I found out I was just an extra while he was entertaining another to play the role of his Mrs.  

The participation in that relationship represented a turning point in my life.  It became one of my most difficult heartbreaks, which led to a vicious cycle of self-sabotaging behavior and unhealthy vices.  For starters, I lowered my standards by reducing the role and expectations for my leading man. And, after years of drama, denial, heartache and disappointment, I felt like I had become more of a supporting actress than a leading lady. That’s because there were times I had entertained situationships, and I had allowed certain characters to play a role they didn’t fit.  The sad part is, we both knew they weren’t trying to make a box office hit. If anything, all they wanted was a short role in a skit. 

 

My heart was crying out for unconditional love, and I was ready to surrender.  I asked God to show me His way because I couldn’t deal with another pretender.  I knew there had to be more to life than this ISH. Then, I asked God to show me how I ended up with a different script.   When I surrendered for sanity, I began to open my heart as God began to show me the real me. I was still seeking validation from my childhood years, and my neediness came across as desperate. 

Part II

It was also brought to my attention that I didn’t know the difference between being strong and resilient.  So, you can imagine I was carrying enough weight, mentally, emotionally and physically, that could, literally, kill an elephant. 

 

God said I don’t have to be strong anymore, I can give it all to Him. Then, it all made sense why no one chose me. God said until I see me, He’ll make it so no one else goes the distance with me.  He said I wasn’t ready because I was looking everywhere but on the inside for someone else to love me. On top of all that, I was rewinding the soundtrack of hurt, pain & disappointment to the point that it had become a part of me.  God told me it was necessary to take the time to grieve my hurts and pains so I could forgive and move forward. That's when I began to recognize it was the love God had for me that kept me sane.

  

This journey allowed me to properly grieve and own my truths. And, to be okay with expressing and not suppressing in order to see my way through. I’m not a victim, and I’m not blaming anyone for the negligent choices I made.  It was time to be proactive and take full responsibility because I didn’t have to accept what came my way.

 

It was during that time He gave me the strength to shut down the theatre and put the spotlight on me. That’s when I dedicated my life to Christ, July 2019.  And, getting baptized as an adult in August 2019 has been one of the best decisions I ever made for the life God has so graciously spared me.  

As time progressed, healing took center stage by way of making God my leading man. Then, Godesteem™ showed up and showed out as I began to re-write my new script.  The way God works is truly amazing.  Who knew the whole time He was revealing my purpose through my pain.  He even made it clear that everything I went through was a dress rehearsal and never a game.  He turned my pain into purpose by using and everything I went through, including the screenplays I directed,for my own good. 

 

“Are you ready to build your new foundation for the role He needs you to play? Or, are you going to keep auditioning for roles that only make you, temporarily, feel good?”

 

Why do I do what I do?

Throughout my life, I had no idea God already had a blueprint laid out just for me.  That's until I was drowning in the mess I'd already created, which is why helping others heal, sooner than later, is something I take seriously. 

 

I want to prevent others from experiencing the unnecessary hurt, pain and drama, that I continued to immerse myself, as well as ending the cycle of 'generational ignorance' when raising our own families. Plus, I wouldn't be able to forgive myself knowing I was the reason I never received all God has for me.  God already knows the assignment He has for your life, and it’s up to you to accept the partnership revealing the beauty within!

What happened to Interior Design and Real Estate?

 

Even though Angelia can, effortlessly, curate a space for her clients that captures the essence of their style, she always thought her purpose was to be an Interior Designer.  However, God gives each of His children a gift to equip us for His purpose.  He has shown her, and with phenomenal teaching from her own Pastor, and Spiritual Mentor, that talents can be enhanced by practice, but God's gifts cannot.  Therefore, a person’s talents and passion don’t necessarily equal purpose. Instead, they may be the vehicle that leads to purpose, as well as the tools that help develop and build the framework.  When you couple your life experiences with the framework and God's gift, your purpose becomes your passion.   

Godesteem™ 1. having the confidence in your own worth and abilities based on God’s love for you and the newfound love for yourself. 2. God validates you, not the world. 

Do the Work While You Wait!